
I’ve been a member of Couchsurfing almost since the website began but had only participated a measly one time when I was in China. It was a fantastic experience and I constantly wonder why I don’t do it more often and then still end up not doing it. Until last week when I found myself sitting in the lounge room of Gabriel Robert surrounded by his wife and his family of five young children. He lives in Ubungo, a suburb of Dar Es Salaam, the country’s capital city and I was there to Couchsurf for my second time.
In talking to Gabriel it’s easy to tell he’s a very ambitious man who sets goals and knows how to follow through on them. He seems to be a leader in the community and I witnessed him talking to his own children and kids in the neighbourhood about the importance of education and chasing your dreams. His oldest daughter, Mary, wants to be a pilot, his son Carlos wants to be an electrical engineer like dad, and his middle daughter, Glory, wants to be a TV news presenter. I’m not sure what his babies want to do yet but I’m sure they’ll be filled with ideas in no time.
My first morning was spent at a neighbour’s house chatting to the wife of his pastor. They’ve got a pig pen, a small chicken business, and ducks wandering around the property. The young boys were busy working on painting some window frames and we sat down and chatted over a couple bottles of Fanta. I had already spoken a bit to Gabriel about my online work, volunteering, living in the UK and we had also exchanged some ideas about business and I told him I have a business degree. He seemed to pass this information on to each friend he met up with while I was there, telling them all about my travels, work and education as they looked on with approval.
That same night, the pastor and his wife came for a visit and Gabriel showed them the beginnings of a website he’s been working on for their church. He’s been teaching himself HTML and was in the early stages but had managed to get off to a good start and everyone he showed his creation to were impressed. I was really happy to have an opportunity to give him a few tips and teach him a few more of the basics. Gabriel and his family have been ridiculously generous to me so it felt great to be able to give a bit back with my short lesson on HTML.
On the next day it was me who was the student as Mary, Glory and Carlos taught me a bunch of Swahili words on the front porch. Nothing really stuck in my useless memory but I think I grasped the spelling which I think impressed them. I doubt they would have given me a gold star for my efforts, though. But now I’ve got a notebook of words to study and practice with. Unfortunately Swahili seems to be a lot more complicated than Creole so learning even the basics will be a struggle for language-challenged me. When I get to a place with a better connection I’m going to buy Benny’s Language Hacking Guide. Help me Benny!
I attracted the curiosity of the kids when I opened up my computer but it seemed to disappoint with the lack of games. It doesn’t even have card games – the horror! But I did attempt to give a quick lesson in chess. Later when we were watching a Mexican soap opera dubbed over with English-speaking actors, Mary noticed they were playing chess in one scene and seemed a bit interested. I might have turned one of them into a chess geek. Sweet.
One of the more bizarre moments of my travel life happened while we were driving into town on afternoon. We were stuck in what I now know is Dar Es Salaam’s regular, everyday, at all times of the day, traffic jam when Gabriel mentioned that a big truck that was passing was a tourist truck. I didn’t really know what he meant, glanced over and saw a giant Kumuka overland truck complete with my two Aussie friends inside. One was fiddling with the window flap and sort of looking in my direction and I got her attention with the beep of the car horn. The look on her face was priceless. There I was in a car with an entire Tanzanian family in a traffic jam on the outskirts of a foreign city, hanging out the window to get her attention. It was pretty crazy to me that we were in the same place at the same time like that but I’m sure the whole scene is a bit more bizarre for them considering what on earth I was doing there.
I stayed with Gabriel an his family for four nights and they not only fed me and gave me a place to sleep, they also bought me ice cream. Plus, more importantly than the ice cream (yes, it’s possible), I got to hang out with them, meet some of their family and friends, have a bunch of interesting conversations and learn a lot of different things: from what exactly was going on in that Mexican soap opera to how much you can buy and sell a pig for at the market to the state of politics in the country.
I was really made to feel at home and I had an amazing experience. If the rest of my Couchsurfing experiences are anywhere near as great as this one then I will be very happy.







Hey Kirsty!
I’m sure it will help a lot!
Glad you got yourself a copy
To learn those words they are telling you quicker, check out the memory section (from p.88)- otherwise have a read through and most of it will get you on the path to speaking quicker! Best of luck
Couchsurfing is absolutely the best (I even wrote about it as a tool for language learning in the guide!!) – I’ve hosted over 1,000 people and am always up for hosting more. Tonight I’ll be at a fun Couchsurfing meeting too – it’s the best site since slicedbread.com!
What a beautiful story! It sounded like you were surrounded by love!!! CSing is one of the greatest things in this world, I’m absolutely convinced.
Wonderful post, I really enjoyed reading it! The people you meet when you travel really are often the best part of it all! I’ve never yet tried couchsurfing, but I’ve heard so much good about it so I suppose sooner or later I’ll have to give it a try.
Couchsurfing has been one of the most rewarding and amazing experiences ever. I have hosted over 100 people in my hometown of Chicago. I have used it to connect with people through CS events when traveling in the US and other countries. I have met some of my closest friends through Couchsurfing. It seriously is one of the greatest things of al time. I will be cycling across Africa and plan to Couchsurf for some of the time. I can’t tell you how unbelievably excited I was while reading this!!! What an incredible experience you had!!!
What an interesting post. It’s amazing how people will open up their homes and their lives to strangers. And you certainly got the experience of a lifetime! Gabriel Robert and his family seem to be quite a close-knit family. Thanks for a really heartwarming account of your CS experience #2!
Sounds like exactly the kind of Couchsurfing experience I’m hoping for in Argentina. Thanks for sharing this awesome story!
I’ve heard a lot about couchsurfing but have never done it. It sounds like a fantastic way to immerse yourself in a culture and make new friends instantly.
Wicked experience. Still haven’t couchsurfed but would love to someday. HOpe you enjoyed ZANZIBAR! Say it again…Zanzibar. Ooooh
Great story and can’t imagine what a great experience it must have been! I am like many others who keeps thinking of getting involved with volunteering when I’m in a new place but something always distracts me. Will keep reading your blog to stay inspired to get involved next time I get a chance!!
The best way to experience any place is to hang out with local people. Ive never used the couchsurfing website to find a couch before but will give it a shot when I head to the Philippines in September. Happy Travels.
Couchsurfing sounds like a great idea, letting you meet up with locals in the place you are staying. Sounds like you had a great time.
Really awesome blog buddy and such informative post too. I’m a web application developer by myself so this article was very interesting for me to read. Moreover those tips are really useful and I will definitely use them in website development process in the future. Awaiting for your next one.
Wonderful post, I really enjoyed reading it! The people you meet when you travel really are often the best part of it all.
This post reminded me of my days Coachsurfing through northern Italy and the Rivera. Good times and it proved to be such a great way to meet people you would otherwise never be able to. I encourage everyone to sign-up and give it a try.
Anyway, I included this post in my weekly roundup of blog posts I enjoyed reading: http://www.gooverseas.com/go-abroad-blog/week-overseas-july-16th/3683. Feel free to share this post back to your readers!
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I have been looking at finding opportunities to do this as a family. With two little ones, I’m not sure how to make it work yet, but I love the different ideas that Kristy has.
You know, I actually first learned about Couchsurfing when I was a on a train ride. I traveled from New York City to New Mexico, and I decided to do it on a train, just for a different experience. Along the way, I started talking next to the person who sat next to me, come to find out hes from England, and traveling the world, He was headed towards the west Coast of the USA, and afterwords was gonna be going to Canada. He also told me he was staying a different places threw CouchSurfing. Fantastic experience you had yourself! I know I’ve met friends out of the blue in unexpected places, and sometimes you just think that world is so small
Till then,
Jean